Babies and Feeling Weightless, Guilt and Feeling Weighted

The science in support of the NDT model comes in faster than I have time to post, and while I’m still trying to catch up on emails, however thanks to Nellie and Lee, some interesting findings bear immediate mention and so I’ve decided not to add these to the queue and trust this brief treatment makes the necessary linkages.

The reason we want to squeeze a baby so hard isn’t due to aggression. In an emotional model, aggression equals blocked attraction, which then triggers stress reserves as a means of coping with or overcoming the block. Hence this tends toward an explosive response, what we would readily recognize as aggressiveness. Whereas intensely squeezing the bubble wrap to get that satisfying “pop” of completion is a displacement behavior that has nothing to do with aggression in the way it’s commonly entertained. A healthy human interacting with a baby is the exact opposite of aggression as there is no perception of a block or even a boundedness at all, the baby is an open receptacle for our emotional expression, purely conductive. Thus, emotionally, one wants to ingest the baby due to its bulbousness (pronounced preyful aspects in conjunction with a small predatory aspect–it can direct its movements but helplessly and this contrast renders its quotient of cuteness) and because the hunger circuitry is so aroused this immediately deflects our sensual focus onto our hands, our hands being the emotional extension of our jaws and mouth and so the subjects squeeze and pop the bubble to relieve that sensual pressure they feel in their hands.

Meanwhile another finding sheds light on the completely opposite end of the emotional spectrum wherein sensations of boundedness prevail. This article in NDT parlance is about the accretion of emotional resistance in the form of guilt, which in the animal mind is perceived of as a weight (sans thoughts).

We are aware of weight because of gravity. Thanks to Einstein we know that gravity results from the displacement of time/space continuum by objects of mass. This generates a virtual force of attraction so that every particle of mass is attracted to every other particle of mass. In contrast, mass resists being accelerated. The more mass something has, the more energy it requires to move it.

Meanwhile, emotion is the displacement of the balance/hunger continuum by objects of change. This also generates a virtual force of attraction so that every “particle” of emotion is attracted to every other “particle.” Resistance to the movement of emotion toward an object of attraction creates stress, in other words, emotional mass. Stress, like mass, resists acceleration and thus we perceive of it as a weight, as something that we carry around with us and/or work against in others.

This external friction is internally burdensome because of the way emotion becomes translated into an action. i.e. via the locomotive mechanism. In order to put one foot in front of another, or to engage another being in an interaction, we must first project our physical center-of-gravity forward, either onto the place we are trying to go or into the being with whom we are trying to engage. Since our physical memory is attached to our physical center-of-gravity, physical memories always come along for the ride and this involuntarily invests resistance into every interaction and hence we expend more emotional energy than we have to when we feel guarded because we project this internal block into the beings of others. Because we feel guarded, we therefore can’t embrace our “mass” as a lump sum emotional ballast and let go enough to become a pure emotional counterbalance to the other party in the interaction. If one can’t project their emotional ballast freely, if they are holding back at their core (which also takes energy), then they can’t become a true emotional counterbalance to the other party in the interaction and can’t enter a state of emotional suspension. (In contrast with dealing with a baby wherein there are no perceived boundaries and so a state of suspension is almost automatic.) Thus the guilt-ridden individual experiences resistance in the interaction as opposed to feeling weightless, i.e. free. Thus, the charge grows ever more and one feels as if the weight they carry grows with every interaction. This is the basis of a weighty conscience.

This then brings us to the question as to why does guilt feel bad in the first place? It’s because when we are emotionally displaced, we are made aware of our physical center-of-gravity which resides at the core of our mind and we thereby feel exposed. Feeling exposed is not necessarily bad if at the same time we are feeling aroused by hunger. But if we affiliate this state of exposure with being acted on by an accelerating force that irrevocably knocks us off balance, a state of perpetual exposure over which we have no control, then the sensations of fear/falling, become SENSATIONS of shame and THOUGHTS of guilt. This is why shame and arousal are so closely linked.

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Published October 10, 2013 by Kevin Behan
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2 responses to “Babies and Feeling Weightless, Guilt and Feeling Weighted”

  1. b... says:

    “emotionally, one wants to ingest the baby due to its bulbousness (pronounced preyful aspects in conjunction with a small predatory aspect–it can direct its movements but helplessly and this contrast renders its quotient of cuteness) ”

    OK, this helps explain the lapdog problem of inescapable attention. People are constantly trying to ingest mine — complete strangers often acting as if I’m not even there. I had presumed it a mental defect on their part.

    I think the olfactory aspect mentioned in the previous post plays a role with the dog as well — I constantly resist the urge to ingest and am sometimes rendered helpless by the delicious smell. Much more enticing than a baby’s, but then his endocrine system is unpolluted by the toxins of processed food and incessant medication.

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